Bystanders are the third group of players in bullying situations, they are those people that know that incidents of bullying take place but don’t do anything to help the victim. Bystanders are important because: Bullying most often takes place in front of peers.
Bullying behaviour not only harms ones identity but also ones community. Bullying usually involves three individuals or groups: the bully, the victim and the bystander. Bullying is repeated, aggressive behaviour towards one person from another person or group of people--and it is hurtful and deliberate. Bullying is such a huge problem in schools today. Bullying in schools usually happens in front of other students or 'bystanders' but often those bystanders wont or don’t know how to intervene. Bystanders (other kids watching) are present most of the time (85%) when there is a bully episode on the playground or in the classroom. Bystanders are encouraged to tell an adult and provide support for students who are bullied.
Parents in turn can play a valuable role by getting involved early; ensuring that they know what the school's bullying policy is rather than waiting for a bullying incident to happen when feelings on all sides may be running at a very high level. That is why we stress in our anti bullying assemblies the power and the role the bystanders have in reporting bullying incidents to their teacher or parent.
Bystanders rarely play a completely neutral role, although they may think they do. Bystanders need to be aware that by standing united, they can make a difference and can positively impact a schools environment. Bystanders also have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying. By using character education follow up exercises we can educate the bystanders on their responsibility to help when they see someone being bullied.